I mentioned in my last post that this year has been monumental. Not only did I leave a position I held for 7 years at a great company with great people, but my wife Amy and I had our third child...and it was a BOY!
Charles Aiden Dupee
- Affectionately nicknamed "Chase".
- Born 04/03/07.
- Healthy as can be. (...and Mom is doing well too!)
Every 'dad-to-be' wants a boy, and so have I...since the topic of having babies was even discussed. Now, Amy and I have two beautiful girls (Madison(8) and Laine(5)) that, thank goodness, came before I actually did have a boy. Why? Because there is something about having a girl first, for me, that made me actually appreciate having children at all. It is really hard to explain, but if I had a boy first, I truly believe that I would have viewed it as well, acquiring another toy...selfish as it sounds. Just another thing I wanted...and got. The girls have helped me appreciate what being a father was supposed to be...but this came at a price.
The price= dealing with those friends/dad's/dads-to-be in the so-called 'friends and family' circle that had boys first...or not. Well, after years of social taunting, smart-ass comments and general beer-induced ridicule , I can officially announce that I am not simply a "girl factory"...to aggregate and simplify their very terminology.
Quite honestly, boys, the ones spawned from the audience above, scare me. I mean, my girls have been relatively easy for Amy and I to manage to this point, all things considered. The boys that they have grown up amongst on the other hand...<gulp>. I have been the most nervous when around the"boys". My observation has been that boys are a nightmare of sorts as soon as they can walk: They want to jump off of everything, don't listen, act before they think, eat...eat...eat with much of their food becoming worn...not eaten I might add. My girls have been a blessing. So I am preparing...for 'the boy'.
Anyway, I was once told many years ago in conversation, from what I thought at the time was a credible source, that having a third child is likened to adding "another scoop of spaghetti". Simple right?
WRONG. Having a third child is anything but simple. In fact, being "back in diapers" is merely the start of a completely different lifestyle, let alone the things that inately come with a new baby. Here are a few "tongue-in-cheek" observations that I , and ironically some of those dads that mocked me for having only girls above, have discovered about this new "lifestyle" before me.
1.) Size Matters.
- We had to swap to different, larger vehicles to accomodate...more passengers. It is not even about the size of the family at a certain point, so much as it is the shuffling of the kids and their friends plus...a new baby and the stuff for the baby (Strollers, etc.). There is a very short list of vehicles available that can accomodate two mommys, 3 or 4 kids plus a baby and all the fixins' to go to the Zoo for the day and not take two vehicles at 2 times the cost and headache to get there.
- I cannot wait until we run out of physical living space to accomodate growing children and their gear...thank goodness music does not take an entire corner of the room to collect in CD-form any longer. Long live the iPod!
2.) Restaurants are officially a PIA.
- Eating in restaurants with the family will never be the same. No more getting a table for four and sitting down with relatively short waits at dinner time. A six-top table and the waits that come with it, are required. Now do this with parents or for that matter, anther family. Restaurants suck now.
3.) Figure out how to be in more than 3 places at once.
- With children 8, 5, and newborn...and work, how does a family get all the kids to their varied, and distant: activities, schools, playdates, sports, etc.? Exactly.
- Plane trips are managable, even with two kids. Three kids may require a charter flight every time we fly to see relatives back in New England. We shall see...but I am bracing for the worst of the alternatives in this case...driving. Not only will flying a family of five be a veritable nightmare to manage: bags, crying, car seats, curb-side drop-offs, hours and hours befoe your flights, but think of the $$$ expense. I should add two more $$ for five. Add a vacation to a ski mountain to the mix...and I cannot even imagine what it will take to "get away" on a family vacation to Orlando and see Mickey.
5.) Do I need to go on?? OK...College. What is this going to entail to send yet another child to college 18 years from now?
As you can see, from the perspective above, having a thrid child is already shaping up to be much, much, much more than another scoop of spaghetti. I'll let you know how it goes. Meantime, I am a very proud new father, who finally got the 'toy' he always wanted. Selfish, ain't I???